Trauma Therapy for Men

You're angry all the time. Or numb. Or drinking too much, working too much, anything to not feel what's underneath. Maybe you had an accident, a divorce, lost someone, got assaulted. Something happened that you can't talk about, and now you're dealing with it the only way you know how - by not dealing with it at all.

The problem is, it's not working. You're exploding at people you care about. You're having thoughts that scare you. You don't recognize yourself anymore. You know something's wrong, but asking for help feels like admitting you failed.

Getting to the Root

You can learn anger management techniques. You can cut back on drinking. You can force yourself to talk about your feelings. Those things might help you get through the week. But they don't address why you're so angry in the first place, or what you're trying not to feel, or why asking for help feels impossible.

Men get taught early that emotions are weakness, that pain is something you push through, that needing support means you're not man enough. When trauma hits, you respond the way you were trained to respond - by shutting it down, controlling it, or letting it out as anger because that's the one feeling men are allowed to have. Understanding where those messages came from and why you believed them changes what's possible.

The Approach

We look at what happened to you and how you learned to respond to pain. What did you get taught about being a man? What happens when you show vulnerability? What did the men in your life do with their own trauma?

You learn to separate what's actually you from what got installed by a culture that doesn't let men be fully human. Anger might be covering fear, grief, shame - feelings you were taught real men don't have. We trace those messages back to where they started and figure out why they're still running your life now.

Who This Is For

This approach works for men who know that managing symptoms isn't cutting it anymore. You might be functional on the outside - going to work, paying bills, keeping it together - but you're barely holding on. You can control the anger for a while, but it keeps coming back. You know something fundamental needs to change.

I work with men who thought therapy wasn't for them. Men who were taught that needing help is weakness, that trauma happens to other people, that real men handle their problems alone. Those messages are lies, but they go deep.

Managing the anger gets you through the day. Understanding where it came from lets you choose what to do with it.